To arms, again to war.

     I feel like we've been here before. 

     Why do I get the feeling that this most recent war, action, engagement or whatever you want to call it is going to be one of those things about which we will say in a few years "Why did we even get involved with this again?!?"

     Now please don't get me wrong. I do not like what I have heard about this group ISIS or IS or whatever they're calling themselves. It's terrible to hear of these mass executions and videotaped beheadings. I recognize that these poor people were captured before our direct involvement over there and the beheadings were a responsive action but it makes it no less barbarous a thing to do. 

     Still, I can't help but to be caused to remember how so very many people were fed up and expressed the sentiment "The heck with these people! Let them kill each other off and let's get out of there!" And now I hear many of these very same people saying "We've got to go over there and stop these bastards!" When I ask the question "Why do you say that?" they look at me incredulously and yell "BECAUSE THEY'RE KILLING HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE!!" Ah. 

     Now of course we will do more against these people since they have beheaded some of our countrymen and no matter if it was a reactive or a proactive action it is still a provocation. A country with any integrity would not sit still for that! Why these poor people would go over there in any other capacity  than being embedded with a fully armed platoon I have no idea. It makes about as much sense as vacationing in sunny North Korea, something else it seems that many people are curiously doing these days. 

     And even though our government is telling us "ISIS is a direct threat to America!" it must yet be admitted that this is exactly, and I say exactly what they told us about Iraq and we see that that was largely a lie. Throw in the fact that one of the strategies we are using is to arm the OTHER militant groups to fight the ISIS and it becomes very puzzling indeed that we continue to act surprised when we discover our elected 'leaders' are lying to us. And the fact that we are yet again arming militant groups to do our fighting for us has to begin to seem absurd in light of the bitter harvest that we always seem to reap from such a policy: Repeatedly it has been demonstrated that the policy of "the enemy of my enemy is my friend" has been a consistent failure, especially when it is realized that our enemy's enemy was our own enemy first. 

     The truth is that this current mess is not the current mess in the sense of a stand alone incident. It is what we feared and what we admitted would be the inevitable consequence of overthrowing Saddam Hussein and destabilizing the Middle East, namely that there would be civil wars and various insurgent groups fighting to fill the power vacuum. And what next? What happens once we overthrow ISIS, or more probably even before that? There will be another group, and another, and yet another waiting to take their place, at least until another strong man steps in and takes control and locks down the area again. 

     Do I have any solution to offer? No. I don't. And neither do I think there ARE any easy answers to this. Back when we went over to Iraq in the Bush Jr administration (under ultimately false 'information') we were warned that this was going to be a long, bloody and drawn out affair and that we would be 'over there' for years. And so it seems to be.

      And so it seems still. 

     I guess my one wish and hope for this current hellishness is that we don't make the same mistakes again. 

     And that maybe, just maybe the right people might learn the right lessons from it. 

     

Depression.

     For Churchill it was 'The Black Dog', for John Lennon it was 'The Blue Meanies'. Abraham Lincoln had it. So did Charles Dickens and Fyodor Dostoyevsky.

      That which I refer to is, of course, depression. Some people have it more severely than others. Depression, if you do not suffer from it and do not know, is more than just feeling 'down' or sad. In fact one of the more tiresome things to hear from someone is the well intentioned yet woefully inaccurate 'Awwww, why are you sad?' At this point the irritability which is part and parcel to most forms of depression becomes apparent in the response.

      Depression is not only sadness or 'the blues' but is often as not a feeling of total despondency, utter despair with a spiraling feeling of desperation which is both debilitating and overwhelming. The sufferer usually feels absolutely no will at all to do anything and feels that any action is futile anyway. Sometimes it lasts for a few hours, sometimes a few weeks or it can even linger for months or for years.

      Another question people sometimes understandably ask is 'Well why can't you talk about it?' Again comes the despair angle. Depression is a very personal disease. One's thought processes are not the same as when the depression is in remission. Researchers have concluded that it is literally like a kind of electrical storm in the brain.One who is suffering is more or less short circuited. Essentially your own brain turns on you. And there's no place to hide from that.The feeling inside is 'What's the use. No one can understand even if I tried to tell them. There is no hope!' Churchill would be practically inert for weeks when 'The Black Dog' visited him.

      I have had to deal with depression for most of my life. I very literally felt it descend upon me. I am even yet caused to remember the very moment it first visited me. It was the beginning of the Summer of 1984, when I was but thirteen years old. It was exactly as if a light switch had been flipped and I felt a terrible blackness descending like a blanket upon me and swallowing me up. The world became a negative from which I had been removed. The horrible and malevolent darkness filled me exactly as a bottle of ink that has been dumped into a glass of water, spiraling, twisting, grasping. It stopped me dead in my tracks. I knew somehow that I would never be the same and a deep fear and deep despair gripped me and dug in its hooks.

      At the age of thirteen!

      For years, apart from initially telling my Mother about it I kept it to myself. Who could I turn to? I was too young, I guess to consider a psychiatrist; at that age I thought that was something that older people did. When I eventually did see a psychiatrist many years later I found it to be somewhat ineffective. Perhaps I should have heeded his advice to take the drug Prozac but I was suspicious of drug therapy at that time. Later experiences with other therapists and psychiatrists served to further these apprehensions.

      I went to a few more psychiatrists and therapists over the years to try to find that elusive sympathetic soul, trying to find the one who held the key which would unlock the gate and allow the terrible flood to pour out of me and release the awful pain and fear which hung over me. I began to perceive a pattern: Apart from the obvious fact that the therapist was there to talk to me and the psychiatrist simply to prescribe meds, I was having question and answer sessions with the therapist. I would be describing what I felt might be wrong (suggesting really, I suppose) and then would be asked "And how did that make you feel?" or "So why do you think you reacted in that way?" I began to get the distinct feeling this was some kind of racket.


      Once through with the therapist I would be directed to the psychiatrist's office. He would scarcely look at me, bending over a yellow legal pad scribbling something or other. Then he would write out a script and hand it to me and then I had to pay the receptionist. It always annoyed me that the Doctors felt it wasn't their job to talk to me. Once on the medications it seemed that they would work well for a couple of weeks, by which time I had another appointment. Same routine except that the recurrent pattern would be invariable; the doctor would increase the dosage of whatever pill I was taking. After taking the higher dosage it would now start to have a reverse effect. On one med I felt definitely suicidal after the dosage was increased, something I have never considered doing. Every time I would bring this up and tell them it was getting worse I received the same lack of response, no matter who the doctor was at the time.

      The dosage would be increased yet again.

      I quickly realized the method of the various psychiatrists I visited were not diagnostic; it was a pre determined regimen of whichever drug they were being told to dispense at the time. Needless to say I stopped visiting psychiatrists after a few such experiences. I also began to undertake the task of healing myself at this time. How?

      The therapists were asking me how I felt about things. They offered no solutions to me. I felt that I was sufficiently self aware to be able to monitor myself and to understand the triggers which would precipitate an attack of depression. If I could do that and resolve to terminate the chain of responses,I should then be able to negate them. It would be an exercise in self control and internal discipline.

      The first few results were mixed; a few successes, more than a few failures. It took a little time to get the system down just right. Deciding what the triggers were was easy; I could do that at my leisure. The most difficult part was training myself to maintain a sense of awareness at the moment they occurred. It took some time, but eventually I reached a point where my successes were becoming more frequent. It was becoming more natural and less of a conscious effort. I began to increase in confidence at the same time, as we all do when we see a positive accomplishment realized in our lives. I had finally started to turn the tide:

      I had decided to fight.

      Nowadays when I feel the footsteps of 'The Black Dog' approaching, I find I am usually able to fend it off and circumvent its arrival...if I sense it in time. While I cannot say with certainty that this success I have been permitted can be used as a transferable template for all sufferers of depression in all of its various forms, I have long felt the need to write this essay, this dissertation if you will, in the hope that maybe I could help make a difference, that I could possibly bring to light something which someone else in the throes of depression might be unable to see through the inner gloom.

      Perhaps, just maybe, I could help someone else to achieve a measure of victory too.

Phone call redux.

As was mentioned in my last post "phone call" I was to return a call I received the night of Tuesday from a prospective employer after noon on Wednesday.

It was a bit of a letdown.

To begin with I feel I must reiterate that the fellow had called me at nearly 8:30 p.m. on Tuesday while I was at work. He even apologized for calling so late. I replied that I was on the forklift and yes it would be better if I could call him the next day if that was all right. He agreed.

So far, so good.

I awoke around 12:30 p.m. on Wednesday and checked my various computer accounts and generally tried to wake up a bit so I could perform my duhr (afternoon) prayer and be coherent enough to speak with him. I waited until about 1:00 p.m. in order to be sure I did not disturb him at lunch.

It went straight to a voice mailbox which had not been set up yet.

Okayyyyy...

I decided to wait until 1:30 p.m. and tried it again. This time it rang about four times and then went straight to the same inactive mailbox.

As I sat and wondered whether to try again or to simply go to bed and try again in the afternoon, my phone rang and his number appeared on the screen.

Now remember, He called me.

I pressed talk and:

His end: (talking to someone who was evidently in the office with him) "...yeah, you know, that one lady who kept coming into the office and crying all the time and stuff?"(someone mumbling in assent) "Yeah well we were just talking about her and..."

Me: (???) "uh, hello?"

Him: (stops talking to other person and sounding suddenly surprised) "Hello?!"

Me: (I am thinking 'Why are you surprised? You called me [again]??') "Yes, this is Mark. We spoke last night. About my resume?"

Him: "Oh yeah. Well, we're in the selection stage now so if we need you we'll let you know." He seemed rather jocular about it.

Me: (confused and somewhat annoyed) "Oh...uhm, well...okay. Well...thanks!(?)"

Him: "Yeah okay, goodbye."

Setting down the phone I sat there for several moments. I really was having a bit of trouble comprehending what had just happened.

As mentioned in my previous post, he had seemed very interested when I mentioned my 20 years of forklift driving experience, even though he was calling about my business resume my school had sent out. He had even gone so far as to mention that there might be some forklift positions available for me.

And then I was quite unmistakably blown off.

I had only told two people at work I knew I could trust, since in the past (exactly because of occurrences like what I have just described) I have found one can look quite foolish if one trumpets news like this all over work and then it falls through. I had also told as many people outside of work, not counting my facebook status update. I wasn't asked about it when I went into work, but I figured I had better just let them know about it so it wouldn't appear as though I was being too proud to do so (not that I was; I more or less just thought 'oh well, that's that.')

I mostly received sympathetic responses tempered with a bit of shock at the ridiculousness of being asked to call back just to be given the old "Don't call us, we'll call you" routine. I only received one response from outside of my work admonishing me that I should "let this be a lesson to me" about telling a prospective employer that I would have to call him back tomorrow. I pointed out that I had already mentioned that I was at work operating a forklift weighing thousands of pounds swinging around crated metal material weighing hundreds of pounds in a confined area around multiple human beings dispersed in all directions of the compass who very seldom are observant of their surroundings or the events taking place within them. I was also under the observation of my Boss at the time.

If this prospective employer found it unreasonable for me to agree that this was a bad time to talk and to call him back the next day under these conditions then this is not someone I would want to work for in any capacity.

Of course unless you are at my job it is difficult to imagine the circumstances in which I work with any degree of accuracy, so I did not take the admonishment with any offense. In fact, I very much agree; under normal circumstances one should never tell a prospective employer you will call them back!

On the plus side, in anticipation of being offered a forklift job I finally typed up my Forklift Resume on M.S. Word which I had been putting off and putting off so now I can start to actually send that one out as well as my business resume and double my chances of getting a phone call. Hey, maybe I'll get a call every six months now!

And so, my attitude is generally that of the German Professor(who looked suspiciously like Einstien) on that old Woody Woodpecker cartoon after Woody takes off in the guy's rocket and strands him on the moon:

"W'vell, dat's da vay da cookie crumbles!"



Oh, and I STILL never got the name of the company!

Phone Call.

Well, I was at work last night and after performing my combined mahgrib and isha prayers (evening and night prayers.I had to combine them;it was a busy night!) I hurried back to my work area and started to operate the forklift again. I just then realized I had a missed call. It was a number I did not recognize.

Usually I ignore these, but it looked like a private number and I thought "what the heck."

I called the number back and the person on the other end seemed rather surprised. The conversation ran something along the lines of this:

Him: "Hello?"
Me: "Hello."
Him: "Yes?Who is this?"
Me: (thinking to myself 'you called me!')"Yes hello,I just found this missed call on my phone and thought I'd call it back."
Him: (the hesitation that suggests confusion)"Oh...well, I had called a few people about their resumes;did you send one in to us?"
Me:(???) "I don't know...I may have; my name is Mark DaSacco,who is this?"
Him:"My name is Bobby. Oh! It looks like your school sent me the resume."

At least now we were getting somewhere.

"Ah yes"I said"that's probably it."

He told me he was sorry he called so late but he had gotten the resumes late (it was nearly 7:45p.m.).He didn't sound too enthusiastic. He said he was calling to see what kind of experience I had. I could tell by his voice that he must have taken a closer look at my resume and realized I had no business experience.

Him: "Can you talk now,or is this a bad time?"
Me: "Well I'm at work right now; could I call you back tomorrow?"
Him: "Yeah that would be fine. So, you're at work right now?"
Me: "Yes"I said. "I'm on the forklift right now."I added.

He suddenly seemed interested.

Him: "Oh...you drive forklifts...?"
Me: "Yes."
Him: "What type? Large? Small?"
Me: (thinking 'Big or small, I drive them all!') I said "Yeah,all kinds. I drive all types of forklifts and heavy equipment type stuff"
Him: "Oh yes? Hmm."
Me: "Yes...yeah, I've been driving forklifts for about 20 years. Just went back to school to try to learn to do something different."
Him: "Yes. Well, I don't want to keep you from your work. Give me a call tomorrow."
Me: "Okay! About what time?"
Him: "Uhhhm, make it for after lunch; I'm going to be pretty busy up 'till then."
Me: "Okay(I had no idea when 'lunch' was for him),so maybe after noon or something like that?"
Him: "Yeah, that'd be great! We'll talk about your resume...and I think we might also have some forklift positions open too."
Me "Great! I hope to talk to you again tomorrow! Uh, your name again?"
Him: "Bobby."
Me: "Okay,thank you very much! Goodbye."
Him: "No problem. Goodbye."

So it would appear I at least have a decent opportunity to check out another forklift job if not an office position. I will be bringing both resumes if I get called for an interview, insha Allah. Here's hoping for the best, and hopefully a better job will come out of this!

And oh yeah, one more teensy little thing...



In my excitement, I didn't even ask what the name of the company was! Haha!

Just starting on this site.

Found this site on facebook through a link on a members profile on a fan site for P.G. Wodehouse. I do like the look of this site. I am on xanga as well and this rather reminds me of it a little bit. I work an awful lot, but I hope to get on here and the other site and write more. I need to write more anyway since it is my intention to write a book about the history of the J.F. Durston, a Great Lakes freight steamer my Father sailed on during the 1952 season. More writing in general could only help,right? :)

Silent whispers on the wind.

I have seen ghosts tonight.

I have been watching a lot of the old Charlie Chaplin films lately. And as much as I enjoy Chaplin and can appreciate his comedy and innovation I sometimes can't help but to think "all of these people are gone now..." This is not so much with movies like The Gold Rush (1925) or Modern Times (1936), but when I watch the shorter films from 1914, 1916, '17 etc, I rather experience a sense of awe just seeing the rays of sunlight or the wind in the trees in these films of a world long ago.

Flickering images, silent, eerie.

And yet...

And yet, still the humor and the brilliance of the great Charles Chaplin shines through and it warms, it comforts. It can make you sigh and long for a time when things were a bit simpler by comparison, when technology had not yet complicated our lives to the extent it has.

Could they have known that almost 100 years later that people would still be watching them, would still be enjoying these films, viewed through media, devices and systems which were unimaginable at the time? Chaplin lived long enough to realize that he would be remembered long after his death. He was an artist who would relentlessly strive for perfection in his work and who certainly considered himself an artist. He helped to make films what they are today.And sometimes while watching those old, early turn of the century films, one can't help but to feel a profound sense of awe, of a stillness inside. It almost feels like a sort of eulogy.

I have seen ghosts tonight. And I think they looked a lot like you and me...